Anal Sex for Women

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Anal sex is vastly popular in mainstream porn, where women are able to "take it up the ass" without blinking, and it may surprise you to discover exactly how many men are particularly keen to try it. Women, on the other hand, are often nervous or fearful about anal sex. The anus is not really designed to accept large objects, and anal sex can easily be a painful experience.

It is perhaps a modern irony that men are outrageously over-excitable at the idea of penetrating a woman's anus, but when it comes to being penetrated (especially by a man) they get mighty disturbed. Perhaps this is why many women insist on buying a strap on and "getting their own back" when anal sex rears its head (sorry) in the bedroom. Interestingly, men are more likely to obtain pleasure from anal penetration because the prostate is stimulated. With women it's definitely an acquired taste. Of course, there are plenty of women out there who love anal sex, who get off on the whole taboo, and who have learned to enjoy the sensation.

If you're not into it, just say no. That's all there is to it.

If, however, you like the idea of trying backdoor shenanigans, there's a few things to remember.

1. Lubrication. Use more than you think you need. As I said before, the bum is not really meant to have anything shoved into it, so lube really helps.

2. Relaxation. Your partner has to remember he can't just stick it in there. You need to be eased into it. He should manually stimulate the outside of your anus, and it helps if you're sexually aroused already. You have to loosen the anal sphincter to allow the penis to enter, so it will help for him to insert his finger first to "open you up".

3. Slow, slow, slow. This is a delicate area, so if he thinks he's about to get into an "anal pounding" like in a porn movie, stop him. He has to penetrate slowly, and move slowly once he's in there.

4. Cleanliness. Your rectum can harbour some nasty bacteria, so do not allow him to penetrate your vagina once he has performed anal sex. It's a good idea to wash your hands before you head around the front again.

5. Safe Sex. Don't need to tell you, remember the condoms (and the lube!!)

If you want to know more about anal sex for women, read Tristan Taormino's great book: Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

I've created a whole site dedicated to this special kind of sex at Anal for Women. Aside from sexy adult galleries and movies depicting female-friendly anal sex there's a whole magazine with advice, articles, reviews and erotic fiction. Worth checking out!

There's more info on anal sex at Sensual Couples, an adult site for women with plenty of interesting articles.

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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
by Tristan Taormino, Fish (Illustrator)

Bring pleasure, confidence and comfort to all your anal encounters with thg help of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women dishes out tips, debunks myths and even offers erotic inspiration. An outstanding example of what I think a modern 'sex manual' should be: it covers a topic that the author knows in depth on a personal level, it is factually accurate and conveys all the information the readers might need, it manages to capture the pleasure and passion which the author finds in her chosen subject, it provides guides to more advanced topics for more advanced and/or adventurous readers, and it contains a solid resource guide for folks who wish to learn more.